Crowns & Roses
~Yuri~
What you say is important, but how you say it is even more important.
You would hardly ever see a beauty queen who cannot speak well. I first came across Amruta Patki, Miss India and Miss Earth 2006, when I was training the Miss India contestants in Mumbai. This lady was determined to iron out her speaking faults. She didn’t leave any stone unturned. Even after my training session with the contestants was over, Amruta talked to me everyday and continued to rectify little defects. Slowly but surely, she started to get more self confident. Needless to say that while I was biting my nails watching the Miss India 2006 finals on TV, Amruta called me in an excited voice to tell me that she had won (There is a half hour delay between the actual event happening and the telecast). The battle was won because Amruta accepted that she had problems with her communication and she was willing to overcome them.
Complacency is a big problem with us. Even worse is either ignorance or tendency to not accept some faults in ourselves. As young children, we learn to communicate, and then further build on our skills. However, lack of proper direction and guidance often leads to the wrong communication habits being formed, and these wrong habits consolidate over the years, leading to incorrect and unimpressive communication. Once these habits are formed, you accept them as normal. They, however, continue to irk those who you communicate with. Bringing about a change needs some work, and so, very few people try and change themselves. But if you want that crown, you have to imbibe those qualities that make good communicators sound impressive. What are those various elements that make up your delivery? The special qualities that make Sushmita Sen or Amitabh Bachchan sound good? The nuances that send positive subliminal signals from a charismatic talker to the listener’s mind? These qualities form the ‘Vocal’ element of your communication. Qualities that all great communicators must have.
The first vocal quality is the pitch or frequency of your voice. There is a certain well known cricketer who appears in a lot of TV ads, but sadly enough, he has an extremely shrill, high pitched voice. Many a mature man is handicapped similarly. You also see a lot of ladies with high pitched, babyish voice.
The fact is, a high pitched voice, whether in a man or a woman, is normally associated with an immature person, or someone who does not have total control over her/himself. Notice how your speaking pitch suddenly goes up when you are angry, or when you get very excited, in other words, not in control of yourself. A low pitched voice on the other hand, gives the impression of self confidence and hold over your life.
All voice trainers will tell you to speak from your stomach. Your speech should be originating from the diaphragm that is located between your lungs and your stomach. If you don’t have any other medical problems, it is possible to improve your pitch and voice. Strengthening your diaphragm and making use of it to speak, gives you a nice rich, sexy voice that is attractive to the listener. Here’s an effective exercise for your diaphragm.
Push your diaphragm with both hands (just below the rib cage) using your fingers and you will be able to feel it rising and collapsing when you try and cough. Having identified it, push it again with your fingers, thereby offering it some resistance and shout out the word ‘Hhutt”. Producing this sound tries to force the diaphragm out against the pressure of your fingers. This should be repeated 10 to 12 times at a stretch and done at least twice a day. Don’t be disappointed if you don’t find a change in a week or 10 days. It usually takes much longer to obtain any noticeable results.
Within about 3 months of doing this exercise regularly, you will find that it becomes easier to use your diaphragm when you speak. There will be an extra reserve of breath power that comes out with your speech, and it is this extra reserve that you will use to manipulate a whole lot of things in your voice to make it sound good. Being able to lower your pitch, is one of the benefits. Feel free to e-mail me and ask questions about how to do this exercise or any other doubts that you may have.
Using your diaphragm also has many other inherent advantages and will help you sound good when you are answering the judges during the contest and in the final Q & A round. Let’s talk about this in our subsequent issues. Till then, keep building that confidence, improve your spoken language, and get working on that diaphragm.
If you want to ask me anything else about the subject, contact me on yuriyuriyuri@gmail.com
About Me
- Yuri Suri
- I was born to have fun, and therefore, I am ! I flew fighter planes in the Indian air Force for 20 years. Then took up broadcasting as an FM Radio Jock. And now my final calling... Bollywood. Unless I chose to form a rock band and become a rock star. My friends have already suggested a name for the band.....'YURINE'. If that is any indication of how good I am at the guitar, I should be giving up the idea ! So what's Yuri's Fury about? Well there is some personal views about how the world and it's citizens are not living up to my standards ;) But it's not all fury. There are some fun bits, some life skills suggestions, and of course, my articles on preparation for beauty pageants, that appear as a regular column in Models 'n Trends, are reproduced here. I have also posted information about all the films I'm currently acting in. Thanks for visiting my blog. I hope you enjoy reading it. Do send in your suggestions and comments. I value them. Yuri
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