Ms Congeniality - VI

Crowns and Roses
~Yuri~
MS CONGENIALITY : THE SIXTH CHALLENGE OF BEING CONGENIAL
Stop Complaining About Yourself
If you think there's something wrong with you, no one will argue with you. They will agree with you whole heartedly. Think of how many times you hear statements like these :

“Oh, I’ve put on so much weight on my thighs. I need to spend more time in the gym.”

“My boyfriend is so insensitive.”

“My hair is so unmanageable.”

“I wish my parents were a little more liberal.”

“Wish I could give up smoking.”

“I’ve been very unfortunate in my relationships.” ……. etc.

Each one of us has features or habits or experiences that we could really do without. If by now you have adopted the First challenge of Congeniality ie you have learnt how to love yourself (Jun issue), the number of these things must have reduced drastically. However, some of our grievances still remain. There should be some magic mantra to wish them away, but (sigh) …..there isn’t ! But there is one more thing you can do to minimize the effect of these unfortunate things and also appear more pleasant to those around you ………Stop complaining about yourself. Because, if you don’t, you will only highlight things that are wrong about you, and the others will not disbelieve you. There is something worse that also happens alongside. Just like people who constantly boast about themselves, those who continuously talk about their shortcomings also fall in the ‘I, me and myself’ category. Imagine how boring it is to listen to people who go on and on about ‘I this’ and ‘me that’. They keep the focus on themselves and most times the others tend to make a face and tune off.

There are 2 good reasons why you should stop complaining all the time. The first reason is in the para above. The second reason, which is equally important, is that saying negative things also does not make those around you feel happy about themselves. While happy people who talk about how good life is spread positive energy, people who talk about their faults and mistakes and unfortunate experiences all the time, radiate negative energy, thus bringing down the overall level of happiness around them.

So know your shortcomings, work hard to remove them from your lives, but don’t broadcast them to the world in the hope of getting some sympathy back from the others.

The Seventh Challenge of Congeniality coming up in the next issue. In the mean time, answer this month’s simple question and win yourself 3 free one-on-one training sessions with me. It’ll help you on your way to the crown. Plus it’s easy because the answer to the question lies somewhere in this article.

The Question : If you have too much hair on your legs, might as well tell the world about it. Someone might offer a magic solution to get rid of them. True or False.

Shoot off your answer to yuriyuriyuri@gmail.com. The lucky winner will be notified by e mail.

Keep working toward improving yorsellf. The crown is not as far as you think it is ! Till next month then.